The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You

Posted on 12 February 2017 by S. Bear Bergman

Alternately unsettling and affirming, devastating and delicious, The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You is a new collection of essays on gender and identity by S Bear Bergman that is irrevocably honest and endlessly illuminating With humor and grace, these essays deal with issues from women s spaces to the old boys network, from gay male bathhouses to lesbian potlucks, from being a child to preparing to have one Throughout, S Bear Bergman shows us there are things you learn when you re visibly different from those around you whether it s being transgressively gendered or readably queer As a transmasculine person, Bergman keeps readers breathless and rapt in the freakshow tent long after the midway has gone dark, when the good hooch gets passed around and the best stories get told Ze offers unique perspectives on issues that challenge, complicate, and confound the official stories about how gender and sexuality work. Best Download [ The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You ] author [ S. Bear Bergman ] For Kindle ePUB or eBook – kino-fada.fr Bear strikes again Amusing and amazing Hey, I resemble that remark moments abound, where you would never expect them, at least not if you re not a formerly butch identified New York Jew trannyfag and before any political correctivists get too excited, I m using the author s terms for hirself.Bear saves the best for last In the final essay, ze outright rejects the negativity, the dys phorias and the non conformity and all that usually surrounds gender and comes up with a pure positivist Bear strikes again Amusing and amazing Hey, I resemble that remark moments abound, where you would never expect them, at least not if you re not a formerly butch identified New York Jew trannyfag and before any political correctivists get to...The author s current pronouns are he him I will use those pronouns in this review I ve seen Bear speak on numerous occasions we ve shared space at events so I have first hand experience I have people who are very close to me who have been treated poorly by Bear, so I also have second hand experience It is nigh impossible to separate Bear from his writing While he is a good writer, in the corners and shadows of his writing, his entitlement, bravado, and dismissal shine through He often sp The author s current pronouns are he him I will use those pronouns in this review I ve seen Bear speak on numerous occasions we ve shared space at events so I have first hand experience I have people who are very close to me who have been treated poorly by Bear, so I also have second hand experience It is nigh impossible to separate Bear from his writing While ...QUICK POINT I find it a bit surprising how many reviews use the wrong pronouns In the book Bear is pretty clear on it and one would hope folks reading it would understand Thanks, but I just had to make that point Last December I had a chance to see Bear when Ze was doing a tour with Ivan Coyote Previous to the event I was unfamiliar with Bear s work, but found Ze s personality and style very appealing and so left the event with a copy of this book It has taken me awhile to get around to re QUICK POINT I find it a bit surprising how many reviews use the wrong pronouns In the book Bear is pretty clear on it and one would hope folks reading it would understand Thanks, but I just had to make that point Last December I had a chance to see Bear when Ze was doing a tour with Ivan Coyote Previous to the event I was unfamilia...Best essays so far only 1 2 of the way through the book so far the nearest exit may be behind you on always making sure you have a way to escape roadside assistance about wanting potential homophobes to know, after they ve benefited from your help, who has helped them it only takes a minute I very short vignettes dutiful grandchild in the old age home, only one gender matters when will you be having surgery there are many reasons to answer no new year busting them with kin Best essays so far only 1 2 of the way through the book so far the nearest exit may be behind you on always making sure you have a way to escape roadside assistance about wanting potential homophobes to know, after they ve benefited from your help, who has helped them it only takes a minute I very short vignettes dutiful grandchild in the old age home, only one gender matters when will you be having surgery there are many reasons to answer no new year busting them with kindness is so satisfying field guide to transmasculine creatures about the importanc...I was going back and forth on my opinion of this book the entire time I was reading it.At the start of it, I was getting annoyed at the author s use of the word tranny , because this word really offends me and has been used to insult me in the past I realize that it was not meant to offend in this case, however, so I finally decided not to let it bother me any.After getting over this, I found I disagreed with what the author was saying, but I was finding just as much of the book fascinatin I was going back and forth on my opinion of this book the entire time I was reading it.At the start of it, I was getting annoyed at the author s use of the word tranny , because this word really offends me and has been used to insult me ...Bear Bergman is an incredibly gifted storyteller Some of these pieces should be mandatory reading if you re a human one in particular, about a harrowing plane ride and 100 mile drive over the Canadian border for compassionate health care, should b...This book was wonderful Funny, interesting, compelling, thoughtful, honest I recommend this book to everyone, but particularly to people who are queer, trans, or know and love someone who is I can t describe how great it is to read something that you think and feel in a book, things that you weren t sure anyone else thought or felt Or the feeling of reading in a book that exactly what and who you are is ok,...In The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You, S Bear Bergman explores life in the gray areas of the gender spectrum Bergman examines such everyday things as feeling safe in a public restroom or a doctor s office, while also exploring larger issues such as getting one s husband pregnant or trying to get through Custom...Bergman s inability to view themself within a broader context of queer and transgender rights makes the book ultimately uninteresting It ends up coming across as a diary or blog of someone concerned with queer transgender issues, but with few if any interesting stories or ...This is a really interesting book of essays written about being non gender normative in a very gender binary society They re easy to read, but also give a great glimpse into Bergman s life and hir interactions with family, Judaism, traveling, health care, sex and starting a family.

English
12 February 2017

S. Bear Bergman