What My Mother and I Dont Talk About

Posted on 12 October 2017 by Michele Filgate

Most Anticipated Reads of 2019 Selection by Publishers Weekly, BuzzFeed, The Rumpus, Lit Hub, The Week, and Elle.com Fifteen brilliant writers explore what we don t talk to our mothers about, and how it affects us, for better or for worse.As an undergraduate, Michele Filgate started writing an essay about being abused by her stepfather It took her than a decade to realize what she was actually trying to write how this affected her relationship with her mother When it was finally published, the essay went viral, shared on social media by Anne Lamott, Rebecca Solnit, and many others The outpouring of responses gave Filgate an idea, and the resulting anthology offers a candid look at our relationships with our mothers While some of the writers in this book are estranged from their mothers, others are extremely close Leslie Jamison writes about trying to discover who her seemingly perfect mother was before ever becoming a mom In Cathi Hanauer s hilarious piece, she finally gets a chance to have a conversation with her mother that isn t interrupted by her domineering but lovable father Andr Aciman writes about what it was like to have a deaf mother Melissa Febos uses mythology as a lens to look at her close knit relationship with her psychotherapist mother And Julianna Baggott talks about having a mom who tells her everything As Filgate writes, Our mothers are our first homes, and that s why we re always trying to return to them There s relief in breaking the silence Acknowledging what we couldn t say for so long is one way to heal our relationships with others and, perhaps most important, with ourselves.Contributors include Cathi Hanauer, Melissa Febos, Alexander Chee, Dylan Landis, Bernice L McFadden, Julianna Baggott, Lynn Steger Strong, Kiese Laymon, Carmen Maria Machado, Andr Aciman, Sari Botton, Nayomi Munaweera, Brandon Taylor, and Leslie Jamison. New Download Kindle ePUB What My Mother and I Dont Talk About by Michele Filgate – kino-fada.fr Relationships are complex Most relationships are not easy to navigate around I think the one we share with our parents is most difficult I have always had a problem expressing what I feel to my parents I think it just stemmed from the fact that we do not speak enough or try to make ourselves heard enough This has nothing to do with love not being there, or not being brought up in a healthy environment at least in my case It is just that we have not learned how to communicate with them P Relationships are complex Most relationships are not easy to navigate around I think the one we share with our parents is most difficult I have always had a problem expressing what I feel to my parents I think it just stemmed from the fact that we do not speak enough or try to make ourselves heard enough This has nothing to do with love not being there, or ...These essays are varied in style and subject matter, but that is fitting since we all have different relationships with our mothers I really noticed the recurring theme of setting boundaries as adults, and the damaging power of denial and silence They made me very reflective for instance I realized the expectations I had for how my mother would change after my father s death were completely wrong, and I have yet to adjust to the reality.I had previously read the Kiese Laymon essay I think i These essays are varied in style and subject matter, but that is fitting since we all have different relationships with our mothers I really noticed the recurring theme of setting boundaries as adults, and the damaging power of denial and silence They made me very reflective for instance I realized the expectations I had for how my mother would change after my father s death were completely wrong, and I have yet to adjust to the reality.I had previously read the Kiese Laymon essay I think it s a chapter in the book Heavy An American Memoir, but maybe reworked a bit There were a few I skimmed because I did not connect with them.My highlights What My Mother and I Don t Talk About Michele Filgate Silence is what fills the gap between my mother and me Al...A very solid collection of essays from a diverse selection of writers about the things they don t talk to their mothers about family history, abuse, love, protection, secrets, first husbands, expectations Particularly poignant essays are from Alexander Chee and Brandon Taylor the last few pages ...Our mothers are our first homes, and that s why we re always trying to return to them To know what it was like to have one place where we belonged Where we fit In What My Mother And I Don t Talk About we read essays from fifteen writers about their relationships with their moms and what they don t talk about This book was such an interesting read for me It made me feel like I am not the only person who feels like they don t know their mother or don t talk to their mother about certain th Our mothers are our first homes, and that s why we re always trying to return to them To know what it was like to have one place where we...Every essay in here and so many great writers was thought provoking and brought something new to the table I loved how different the essays were and the richness of the collection.This collection of essays is human, vulnerable, and at times cathartic It is uneven at times, but highlights unique literary voices and encourages self reflection and forgiveness.It is not really what I thought it would be and with so many voices, there were obviously some essays that stand out as higher quality, that resonatedwith me and made alasting impression I was pleasantly surprised to see the diversity in gender, ethnicity, economic background, life trauma experiences, This collection of essays is human, vulnerable, and at times cathartic It is uneven at times...This collection of essays was unfortunately a bit lackluster for me.Really good essay collection I ll need to buy it in print at some point I think listening to this essay collection took away some of my enjoyment, as I was distracted by the reader s voice The authors of these essays laid themselves bare, and I didn t re...Excellent essay collection featuring great talent It really made me consider my relationships with my own parents.There is relief in breaking the silence This is also how we grow Acknowledging what we couldn t say for so long, for whatever reason, is a way to heal our relationships with others and perhaps most important, with ourselves, says Michele Filgate in the intro of her fantastic new curated essay collection, WHAT MY MOTHER AND I DON T TALK ...

12 October 2017

Michele Filgate