The Opposite of Spoiled

Posted on 02 February 2017 by Ron Lieber

In the spirit of Wendy Mogel s The Blessing of a Skinned Knee and Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman s Nurture Shock, New York Times Your Money columnist Ron Lieber delivers a taboo shattering manifesto that explains how talking openly to children about money can help parents raise modest, patient, grounded young adults who are financially wise beyond their years.For Ron Lieber, a personal finance columnist and father, good parenting means talking about money with our kids Children are hyper aware of money, and they have scores of questions about its nuances But when parents shy away from the topic, they lose a tremendous opportunity not just to model the basic financial behaviors that are increasingly important for young adults but also to imprint lessons about what the family truly values.Written in a warm, accessible voice, grounded in real world experience and stories from families with a range of incomes, The Opposite of Spoiled is both a practical guidebook and a values based philosophy The foundation of the book is a detailed blueprint for the best ways to handle the basics the tooth fairy, allowance, chores, charity, saving, birthdays, holidays, cell phones, checking accounts, clothing, cars, part time jobs, and college tuition It identifies a set of traits and virtues that embody the opposite of spoiled, and shares how to embrace the topic of money to help parents raise kids who are generous and less materialistic.But The Opposite of Spoiled is also a promise to our kids that we will make them better with money than we are It is for all of the parents who know that honest conversations about money with their curious children can help them become patient and prudent, but who don t know how and when to start. Download The Opposite of Spoiled by Ron Lieber – kino-fada.fr When you hear the uninspiring story of someone who lives in a 2 million dollar house who downsizes to a 1 million dollar house to display their social conscience, my response wants to be Good for them but I m afraid I struggled not to throw up in my mouth I love the idea of this book, and talking to your children about financial reality is a good idea, but perhaps it is geared to the 1%, of which I am not a member Let me quote They ve grown wealthy through long hours spent over two decades When you hear the uninspiring story of someone who lives in a 2 million dollar house who downsizes to a 1 million dollar house to display their social conscience, my response wants to be Good for them but I m afraid I struggled not to throw up in my mouth I love the idea of this book, and talking to your children about financial reality is a good idea, but perhaps it is geared to the 1%, of which I am not a member Let me quote They ve grown wealthy through long hours spent over two decades working in investment banking and the law When they leave NYC during their limited time off, they want to treat themselves to hotel stays and experiences that are as relaxing and memorable as possible I d suggest that spoiled parents produce spoiled children, and much of this book reminds me of fund raisers the rich produce to make themselves feel good about themselves The money that goes into the meals and entertainme...You take a bit of a gamble when you read a book that covers the topic of raising children when yours are already in high school You can hope that the book suggests the best way is the way you did it Because otherwise, it s likely too late dealing with spoiled children obviously should start early But in this case, The Opposite of...I received a galley of this from the publisher After reading the piece Ron Lieber did on the times about this very subject here , I was intrigued about the book While most of the information in this book won t apply to my child for a fewyears, it was still good to get the seed planted Like many Chinese, I grew up in a family where money was talked about a lot, so I couldn t really relate to some of the families in this book I still found it informational though, because the taboo abou I received a galley of this from the publisher After reading the piece Ron Lieber did on the times about this very subject here , I was intrigued about the book While most of the information in this book won t apply to my child for a fewyears, it was still good to get the seed planted Like many Chinese, I grew up in a family where money was talked about a lot, so I couldn t really relate to some of the families in this book I still found it informational though, because the taboo about talking about money in public is still widely...Did you ask a good question today Praise children for asking good questions and give straight answers so they will trust you.When asked a question by children, first respond why do you ask They may not be thinking what you are thinking, and it buys you time Fun ratio hours of fun per dollar spentMore good Less harm rule for needsKids are on a quest for dignity, feelings of self worth often rise and fall on constantly shifting standards around the possessions and experiences that matter Did you ask a good question today Praise children for asking good questions and give straight answers so they will trust you.When asked a question by children, first respond why do you ask They may not be thinking what you are thinking, and it buys you time Fun ratio hours of fun per dollar spentMore good Less harm rule for needsKids are on a quest for dignity, feelings of self worth often rise and fall on constantly shifting standards around the possessions and ex...Well meaning and possessing an interesting core discussion on the importance of raising children that are generous and primed to be financially intelligent adults, it nonetheless is overly padded with distracting anecdotes that read like rich people s problems that make the whole read seem superficial and frustrating.I purchased this book following an interview that the author, Ron Lieber, gave on Inside the N...This was a one day read for me The book was easy to read, but the topic is something we discuss in our household without reaching any easy answers When kids are raised in a household that wants for very little, how do we teach them to be grateful for this abundance How do we start teaching kids financial literacy Kids are naturally curio...Practical, Lots of Good IdeasTHE OPPOSITE OF SPOILED is an extensive investigation into why kids are spoiled andimportantly, what we can do to avoid that mistake There are lots of practical tips, interviews, and stories from families that have tried different methods to make your kids value work and spend their money wisely For example, the author gives an example of one family that calculates the most fun per dollar spent on their recrea...Concise, Clear, Concrete Those are the adjectives that make a good parenting book for me Presumably parents don t have a ton of time to read about parenting, so having a book that s on the spare side is a plus This book loses a little bit on the clarity point Lieber doesn t seem a hundred percent sold on his concept He s written a book that tries to address all social strata, but doesn t do so evenly the book is definitelygeared toward the wealthy On concrete, there wasn t actually Concise, Clear, Concrete Those are the adjectives that make a good parenting book for me Presumably parents don t have a ton of time to read about parenting, so having a book that s on the spare side is a plus This book loses a little bit on the clarity point Lieber doesn t seem a hundred percent sold on his concept He s written a book that tries to address all social strata, but doesn t do so evenly the book is definitelygeared toward the wealthy On concrete, there wasn t actually a plan to follow, but there were pl...I received this book as part of the Goodreads First Reads Program for the purpose of a fair review.Overview Mr Lieber has his reputation for being a money man for the New York Times How much help will this be when it comes to talking to children about money Let s find out, shall we Likes It s a good idea to keep your children s allowance free from being tied to their chores, but it should be tied to something My suggestion is to tie it to their self control They will work at it then Some I received this book as part of the Goodreads First Reads Program for the purpose of ...I appreciated Lieber s thoughtful and intelligent book about how to raise kids who are thoughtful and intelligent about money Major take aways for me included Be honest about finances your own, your family s and other people s financial situations with your kids While it s easier to say we can t buy that it s usuallyhonest to say butdifficult to say we won t buy that explaining why that purchase doesn t align with your family s values takes time but teaches invaluable I appreciated Lieber s thoughtful and intelligent book about how to raise kids who are thoughtful and intelligent about money Major take aways for me included Be honest about finances your own, your family s and other people s financial situations with your kids While it s easier to say we can t buy that it s usuallyhonest to say butdifficult to say we won t buy that explaining why that purchase doesn t align with your family s values takes time but teaches invaluable lessons when kids ask are we rich or are we poor or is Kathi s family rich respond with a question with a kind, open ended tone of voice What m...

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02 February 2017

Ron Lieber