No-Drama Discipline
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER The pioneering experts behind The Whole Brain Child and The Yes Brain tackle the ultimate parenting challenge discipline.Highlighting the fascinating link between a child s neurological development and the way a parent reacts to misbehavior, No Drama Discipline provides an effective, compassionate road map for dealing with tantrums, tensions, and tears without causing a scene.Defining the true meaning of the d word to instruct, not to shout or reprimand , the authors explain how to reach your child, redirect emotions, and turn a meltdown into an opportunity for growth By doing so, the cycle of negative behavior and punishment is essentially brought to a halt, as problem solving becomes a win win situation Inside this sanity saving guide you ll discover strategies that help parents identify their own discipline philosophy and master the best methods to communicate the lessons they are trying to impart facts on child brain development and what kind of discipline is most appropriate and constructive at all ages and stages the way to calmly and lovingly connect with a child no matter how extreme the behavior while still setting clear and consistent limits tips for navigating your child through a tantrum to achieve insight, empathy, and repair twenty discipline mistakes even the best parents make and how to stay focused on the principles of whole brain parenting and discipline techniquesComplete with candid stories and playful illustrations that bring the authors suggestions to life, No Drama Discipline shows you how to work with your child s developing mind, peacefully resolve conflicts, and inspire happiness and strengthen resilience in everyone in the family. Download No-Drama Discipline – kino-fada.fr This book has a lot of excellent advice about the importance of your relationship with your children, and how you can discipline them in a way that preserves that relationship I use quotes around discipline because the authors begin the book by launching into a sort of questioning of what we even mean by discipline They wind up redefining the word to mean something a little different from what you might expect i.e to teach rather than to guide by consequences as many parents have c This book has a lot of excellent advice about the importance of your relationship with your children, and how you can discipline them in a way that preserves that relationship I use quotes around discipline because the authors begin the book by launching into a sort of questioning of what we even mean by discipline They wind up redefining the word to mean something a little different from what you might expect i.e to teach rather than to guide by consequences as many parents have come to understand it , and then proceeding to offer advice based on this new definition rather than the one with which you re familiar All of the advice seems really gr...This is worth a read from the library but please don t buy this book What is said on 250 pages could be summarized in 15 and by making it longer the authors complicate a simple strategy In short connect with your kids and focus discipline on learning rather than consequences I will have to try it before I judge the merits of the strategy Much of the advice runs counter to almost every parental instinct I have Eg, if your child throws your glasses against the wall, make a joke to lighten th This is worth a read from the library but please don t buy this book What is said on 250 pages could be summarized in 15 and by making it longer the authors complicate a simple strategy In short connect with your kids and focus discipline on learning rather than consequences I will have to try it before I judge the merits of the strategy Much of the advice runs counter to almost every parental instinct I have Eg, if your child...Before tackling this book, the reader must understand a secret that is essential to good parenting there is no perfect parent or ideal approach to tackling the issues of disciplining a child Drs Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson dispel this myth from the beginning and offer an insightful and highly educational approach to discipline and parenting that is simple, yet effective With strong parallels from their previous joint publication The Whole Brain Child , which I have previously re Before tackling this book, the reader must understand a secret that is essential to good parenting there is no perfect parent or ideal approach to tackling the issues of disciplining a child Drs Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson dispel this myth from the beginning and offer an insightful and highly educational approach to discipline and parenting that is simple, yet effective With strong parallels from their previous joint publication The Whole Brain Child , which I have previously reviewed, the authors tackle discipline from a non punitive perspective seeking the teachable moment approach for both parent and child With a better understanding of the child s brain, the parent can fine tune their end results to best align with what the child has going on and how the message reception pl...This book is excellent I ve been getting angry and unkind all too frequently with my two year old Time out stopped working, reasoning is challenging, and although spanking was a last resort for me, it s ineffective I needed other resorts so I turned to this book I find HALT and 1,2,3 the most effective strategies HALT stands for hungry, angry, lonely, and tired Those are the most common reasons why children act out The idea behind HALT is that you pause before respondin This book is excellent I ve been getting angry and unkind all too frequently with my two year old Time out stopped working, reasoning is challenging, and although spanking was a last resort for me, it s ineffective I needed other resorts so I turned to this book I find HALT and 1,2,3 the most effective strategies HALT stands for hungry, angry, lonely, and tired Those are the most common reasons why children act out The idea behind HALT is that you pause before responding to misbehavior and try to identify the source of the misbehavior in order to teacheffectively 1,2,3 is a step by step approach to disciplining children calmly 1 Why did my child act out this way 2 What do I want to teach and 3 How am I going to teach that principle The idea that impacted me most in this book was that you can t teach a child to stop a behavior while the child is upset and out of control The book instructs that before you address misbehavior you need to calm the child down, so the child will listen t...There is no silver bullet to parenting and the authours rightly confess this in the book There is a lot of useful advice here and much to like and enjoy in this book But like any parenting book, it seems to have been written in the land of parenting utopia where every explosive situation is scalable and every child, given time, can see the errors of their ways If your household is anything like mine, we don t have this luxury That being said the message of this book is simple, and on t There is no silver bullet to parenting and the authours rightly confess this in the book There is a lot of useful advice here and much to like and enjoy in this book But like any parenting book, it seems to have been written in the land of parenting utopia where every explosive situation is scalable and every child, given time, can see the errors of their ways If your household is anything like mine, we don t have this luxury That being said the message of this book is simple, and on the whole, a commendable one Connect with yo...When I saw the title of this book, I rolled my eyes and thought No drama You haven t met my child As I started reading, I appreciated that the authors had a generally realistic approach to children and were thoughtful about how they connected their philosophy and suggested strategies to brain development It had some helpful, catchy things to remember like shark music The examples seemed like real life ones and every situation did not end perfectly I liked all of these things However, When I saw the title of this book, I rolled my eyes and thought No drama You haven t met my child As I started reading, I appreciated that the authors had a generally realistic approach to children and were thoughtful about how they connected their philosophy and suggested strategies to brain development It had some helpful, catchy things to remember like shark music The examples seemed like real life ones and every situation did not end perfectly I liked all of these things However, in the end I felt the book didn t offer me much, even though on the whole I agreed with most of their approach.Something I noticed early on was the total lack of reference to existing discipline approaches The strategies and philosophies described in this book borrow quite a lot from discipline approaches such as Jane Nelson s Positive Discipline, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish s How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, Elizabeth Pantley s The No Cry Discipline S...This is a fantastic book I would really like to adopt Siegel and Bryson s very well informed and well tested discipline philosophy Their philosophy does seem to requirethought, creativity, and engagement with your child than the average parenting style I think that my husband will be great at this, but I m worried for myself about doing a good job with the creativity part.The philosophy in a nutshell is that you first connect with your child meaning that you have a discussion or a few This is a fantastic book I would really like to adopt Siegel and Bryson s very well informed and well tested discipline philosophy Their philosophy does seem to requirethought, creativity, and engagement with your child than the average parenting style I think that my husband will be great at this, but I m worried for myself about doing a good job with the creativity part.The philosophy in a nutshell is that you first connect with your child meaning that you have a discussion or a few words to help calm your child and yourself to bring them to a less reactive state so that you can teach them better when you get to the correction step these are the only two steps In correction, aka redirection, aka discipling not a typo they do talk about the relationship between discipleship and discipline eve...This book reminds me of an updated version of books like How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk In fact, this also has talking illustrations cartoons outlining what to do Everyone gets to share the slide what not to do Let those kids slide or we re going home What I like even better about this is it doesn t imply kids will always react in a reliable and connected way even if parents act and talk perfectly in any given situation Lots of science behind childre This book reminds me of an updated version of books like How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk In fact, this also has talking illustrations cartoons outlining what to do Everyone gets to share the slide what not to do Let those kids slide or we re going home What I like even better about this is it doesn t imply kids will always react in ...I realized about 1 4 of the way into this book that I d read another book by this author, and that not only was there a lot of the same information in this new book, but that what irked me about that book did the same in this one Siegel and Bryson have interesting ideas, but no one needs to readthan one of their books to know understand get them They believe in making sure discipline is about teaching versus punishment and that connection with your child is always the important first s I realized about 1 4 of the way into this book that I d read another book by this author, and that not only was there a lot of the same information in this new book, but that what irked me about that book did the same in this one Siegel and Bryson have interesting ideas, but no one needs to readthan one of their books to know understand get them They believe in making sure discipline is about teaching versus punishment and that connection with your child is always the important first step in discipline They back up their beliefs with research dealing with neurophysiology and the developing brain They also use ENTIRELY too many hypothetical situations and analogies, some of which they clearly made up to help bring others around to their way of thinking rather than to illustrate a germane thought It isn t a bad book, or a bad approach I don t disagree with much of what they say in the book, but I take...I enjoyed the basic ideas in this book, and appreciated the gentle, logical solutions presented They are helpful ideas But like SO many other parenting books, the tone is repetitive and a little arrogant and it doesn t acknowledge that what parents need perhapsthan anything is grace for themselves, grace their children, and a sense of humor I wishparenting authors would just acknowledge that at one time or another, your child will be the hot mess melting down in a very public pl I enjoyed the basic ideas in this book, and appreciated the gentle, logical solutions presented They are helpful ideas But like SO many other parenting books, the tone is repetitive and a little arrogant and it doesn t acknowledge that what parents need perhapsthan anything is grace for themselves, grace their children, and ...This is the sort of book I think I need to just always be reading On a loop Things I took away this time were to connect first, to remember that if there isn t a connection, any attempts to correct will be futile Also remembering that just as I have hard days where my attitude is less than ideal, so do my kids My job is to help them recognize those triggers, figure out how to minimize the negativity and refocus And the final big takeaway while it might feel ridiculous to be creative in eff This is the sort of book I think I need to just always be reading On a loop Things I took away this time were to connect first, to remember that if there isn t a connection, any attempts to correct will be futile Also remembering that just as I have hard days where my attitude is less than ideal, so do my kids My job is to help them recognize those triggers, figure out how to minimize the negativity and refocus And the final big takeaway while it might feel ridiculous to be creat...All parents should read this Great reminder of what is important.
- English
- 19 July 2018 Daniel J. Siegel
- Kindle Edition
- 290 pages
- Daniel J. Siegel
- No-Drama Discipline