What We Talk About When We Talk about Rape

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In the tradition of Rebecca Solnit, a beautifully written, deeply intelligent, searingly honest and ultimately hopeful examination of sexual assault and the global discourse on rape told through the perspective of a survivor, writer, counselor, and activist.Sohaila Abdulali was gang raped as a seventeen year old in Mumbai Indignant at the silence on the issue in India, she wrote an article for an Indian women s magazine questioning how we perceive rape and rape victims Thirty years later her story went viral in the wake of the 2012 fatal gang rape in Delhi and the global outcry that followed In 2013, Abdulali published an op ed in the New York Times called After Being Raped, I Was Wounded My Honor Wasn t that was widely circulated Now, as the metoo and timesup movements blow open the topic of sexual assault and rape, What We Talk About When We Talk About Rape is a brilliant and entirely original contribution to our understanding.Drawing on her own experience, her research, her work with hundreds of survivors as the head of a rape crisis center in Boston, and three decades of grappling with the issue as a feminist intellectual and writer, Abdulali examines the contemporary discourse about rape and rape culture, questioning our assumptions and asking how we want to raise the next generation She interviews survivors whose moving personal stories of hard won strength, humor, and wisdom collectively tell the larger story of how societies may begin to heal.Abdulali also explores what we don t say Is rape always a life defining event Does rape always symbolize something Is rape worse than death Is rape related to desire Who gets raped Is rape inevitable Is one rape worse than another How does one recover a sense of safety and joy How do we raise sons Is a world without rape possible Both deeply personal and meticulously researched, What We Talk About When We Talk About Rape is a rallying cry and required reading for us all. Read What We Talk About When We Talk about Rape – kino-fada.fr Content warning Naturally a book with rape in its title is going to come with a content warning from me This book is confronting so I would caution you to be aware of the potentially triggering nature of the content, but it was one of the best I ve ever read on the topic.The author considers the difficulty of categorising this book and I agree it s a blend of personal experience, other peoples experiences and insights What kept popping into my head as I was reading was that it s a convers Content warning Naturally a book with rape in its title is going to come with a content warning from me This book is confronting so I would caution you to be aware of the potentially triggering nature of the content, but it was one of the best I ve ever read on the topic.The author considers the difficulty of categorising this book and I agree it s a blend of personal experience, other peoples experiences and insights What kept popping into my head as I was reading was that it s a conversation I loved Sohaila s... What We Talk About When We Talk About Rape is one of those books I would never discourage anyone from reading Certainly, it deals with an important topic, and its virtues are many The writing is engaging The author, who recounts several of her own experiences here, is great company And the wide ranging perspective, covering many countries and cultures, is exactly what a typical self centered American like myself needed I learned a lot and was grateful for it.Unfortunately, though, this book What We Talk About When We Talk About Rape is one of those books I would never discourage anyone from reading Certainly, it deals with an important topic, and its virtues are many The writing is engaging The author, who recounts several of her own experiences here, is great company And the wide ranging perspective, covering many countries and cultures, is exactly what a typical self centered American like myself needed I learned a lot and was grateful for it.Unfortunately, though, this book has some drawbacks I can t ignore While it definitely supplied many facts I d never heard before, I can t say it provided any new and original insights If you re already pretty well read on this topic, there s nothing here that s going to blow your mind The book also, sadly, has kind of a thrown together feel its short chapters skip around from topic to topic in an everything but the k...Thank you NetGalley and The New Press for this ARC So what is this book It s about shining a light on what we talk about, but also on what we don t talk about This is a fabulous description of the content The author sits you down and talks to you like an older sister Sharing stories, facts and opinions while allowing you to form your own She questions everything and makes you feel safe and welcome to do the same Discussions about rape tend to be irrat...Earlier this year, I read Gay s Not that Bad, which is supposedly about rape culture, but mostly about response to rape It wasn t a bad book, it just wasn t what I thought it would be.This book isabout that It is truly a look at the culture that surrounds us an...I received a digital copy of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.This is such an important book If I had to put into words, I d say this book is the conversation about rape that I wish someone older andmature had had with me or I could have with someone.younger The good thing is, now we can Through this memoir slash self help manual, Sohaila Ab...Vital.Reviewed for The Bibliophibian.My experience of this book is positive, but it is about rape, all kinds of rape, and it s not skimpy on the details If you re going to find the topic of rape viscerally upsetting, please don t read this review I don t want anyone to feel unsafe, although I think the book in itself is potentially really helpful.The title pretty much encapsulates what the book is about Sohaila Abdulali thinks that rape has been a taboo and difficult subject for too long, leaving t Reviewed for The Bibliophibian.My experience of this book is positive, but it is about rape, all kinds of rape, and it s not skimpy on the details If you re go...trigger warning rape, sexual violence Sohaila Abdulali was raped as a 17 year old woman by five men while out with her male friend in Mumbai Speaking about her own experience as a survivor as well as educator, academic, and head of the rape crisis centre in Boston, this book is a great overview on the current discussion on rape, and rape culture She adequately asks the question how to classify this book is it a memoir, a social sciences text book, classic non fiction Probably all of trigger warning rape, sexual violence Sohaila Abdulali was raped as a 17 year old woman by five men while out with her male friend in Mumbai Speaking about her own experience as a survivor as well as educator, academic, and head of the rape crisis centre in Boston, this book is a great overview on the current discussion on rape, and rape culture She adequately asks the question how to classify this book is it a memoir, a social sciences text book, classic non fiction Probably all of the above.Abdulali tackles the big questions surrounding rape with one topic p...More reviews up on my blog Inside My Library Mind This was brilliant Intersectional and incredibly nuanced, not to mention really smart As I ve mentioned on numerous ocassions, theof feminist fiction I read, theit feels like preaching to the choir I feel like most of the readership of feminist literature is feminists, so I ve been craving somethingnuanced And this was it There s a fantastic chapter on consent which tackles the question so eloquently and insightfully This More reviews up on my blog Inside My Library Mind This was brilliant Intersection...Powerfully written testimonial of the attitudes and experiences of women mostly of rape across cultures and time The author provides her own experience with rape and with writing about rape as a backdrop for first person accounts of the 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What We Talk About When We Talk about Rape
  • English
  • 01 November 2018
  • Paperback
  • 265 pages
  • 1912408066
  • Sohaila Abdulali
  • What We Talk About When We Talk about Rape