Untangled

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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Lisa Damour, Ph.D., director of the internationally renowned Laurel School s Center for Research on Girls, pulls back the curtain on the teenage years and shows why your daughter s erratic and confusing behavior is actually healthy, necessary, and natural Untangled explains what s going on, prepares parents for what s to come, and lets them know when it s time to worry In this sane, highly engaging, and informed guide for parents of daughters, Dr Damour draws on decades of experience and the latest research to reveal the seven distinct and absolutely normal developmental transitions that turn girls into grown ups, including Parting with Childhood, Contending with Adult Authority, Entering the Romantic World, and Caring for Herself Providing realistic scenarios and welcome advice on how to engage daughters in smart, constructive ways, Untangled gives parents a broad framework for understanding their daughters while addressing their most common questions, including My thirteen year old rolls her eyes when I try to talk to her, and only does it when I get angry with her about it How should I respond Do I tell my teen daughter that I m checking her phone My daughter suffers from test anxiety What can I do to help her Where s the line between healthy eating and having an eating disorder My teenage daughter wants to know why I m against pot when it s legal in some states What should I say My daughter s friend is cutting herself Do I call the girl s mother to let her know Perhaps most important, Untangled helps mothers and fathers understand, connect, and grow with their daughters When parents know what makes their daughter tick, they can embrace and enjoy the challenge of raising a healthy, happy young woman.Praise for Untangled Finally, there s some good news for puzzled parents of adolescent girls, and psychologist Lisa Damour is the bearer of that happy news Untangled is the most down to earth, readable parenting book I ve come across in a long time The Washington Post Anna Freud wrote in 1958, There are few situations in life which are difficult to cope with than an adolescent son or daughter during the attempt to liberate themselves In the intervening decades, the transition doesn t appear to have gotten any easier which makes Untangled such a welcome new resource The Boston Globe Damour offers a hopeful, helpful new way for parents to talk about and with teenage girls Parents will want this book on their shelves, next to established classics of the genre Publishers Weekly For years people have been asking me for the girl equivalent of Raising Cain, and I haven t known exactly what to recommend Now I do Michael Thompson, Ph.D., co author of Raising Cain An essential guide to understanding and supporting girls throughout their development It s obvious that Dr Damour gets girls and understands the best way for any adult to help them navigate the common yet difficult challenges so many girls face Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees Wannabes A gem From the moment I read the last page I ve been recommending it to my clients including those with sons and colleagues, and using it as a refreshing guide in my own work with teenagers and their parents Wendy Mogel, Ph.D., author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee New Read [ Untangled ] author [ Lisa Damour ] For Kindle ePUB or eBook – kino-fada.fr ATTENTION REQUIRED READING FOR PARENTS OF TEEN GIRLSSuch valuable, valuable help from a therapist whose life work centers around providing counsel and working with thousands of teen girls and their parents This book really calmed me down and made me think, Oh, it s ok Oh, it s normal I ll list out what I want to remember Warning Very long When they re complaining about something or dumping their emotions on you just listen They probably won t take any advice, but to be sure you can say ATTENTION REQUIRED READING FOR PARENTS OF TEEN GIRLSSuch valuable, valuable help from a therapist whose life work centers around providing counsel and working with thousands of teen girls and their parents This book really calmed me down and made me think, Oh, it s ok Oh, it s normal I ll list out what I want to remember Warning Very long When they re complaining about something or dumping their emotions on you just listen They probably won t take any advice, but to be sure you can say, Do you want my help with what your describing or do you just want to vent OR if you feel the probably needs to be put in better perspective you can say, I have a different take on the situation do you want to hear it It s normal for them to take out frustrations on the f...My first reaction after reading this book was, OMG MY KIDS ARE GETTING OLD ENOUGH FOR ME TO READ THIS BOOK followed by 30 minutes of weeping.But seriously, if the thought of teenagerhood daunts you, or if you, like us, have a girl who isn t a teen yet but has started acting in ways where the old methods have stopped working, this is really a terrific book It s clear eyed, calm, real It doesn t sugarcoat the pressures and conflicts that come with raising a teen, but it also gives parents real My first reaction after reading this book was, OMG MY KIDS ARE GETTING OLD ENOUGH FOR ME TO READ THIS BOOK followed by 30 minutes of weeping.But seriously, if the thought of teenagerhood daunts you, or if you, like us, have a girl who isn t a teen yet but has started acting in ways where the old methods have stopped working, this is really a terrific book It s clear eyed, calm, real It doesn t sugarcoat the pressures and conflicts that come with raising a teen, but it also gives parents realistic ways to handle them So is this book worth rea...In Untangled, Lisa Damour discusses seven transition phases that girls experience as they progress from childhood to adulthood The phases are relatively self explanatory They are 1 parting with childhood, 2 joining a new tribe, 3 harnessing emotions, 4 contending with adult authority, 5 planning for the future, 6 entering the romantic world, and 7 caring for herself These phases aren t necessarily experie...I haven t done any updates for this book because for my purposes, it wasn t one in which I had time to read from front to back I needed and will continue to need to refer to the sections which for the needs of my girls and how I can help them as well as the three of us together Fantastic book and one I ll refer to often even if it may be too late I pray to God it s not and I cannot thank Goodreads RandomHouse BallantineBooks and the author Lisa Damour for this gift A genre self help book I haven t done any updates for this book because for my purposes, it wasn t one in which I had time to read from front to back I needed and will continue to need to refer to the sections which for...I received an ARC of Untangled as a Goodreads giveaway This book is an invaluable and comprehensive resource for parents of preteen and teenage girls Dr Damour clearly defines the seven strands of adolescence and specifically tailors this book for raising girls This is important because the rate of development is unique for girls and the issues that affect girls differ in many ways from those that affect their male counterparts Dr Damour offers deep insight into the teen female psyche One I received an ARC of Untangled as a Goodreads giveaway This book is an invaluable and comprehensive resource for parents of preteen and teenage girls Dr Damour clearly defines the seven strands of adolescence and specifically tailors this book for raising girls This is important because the rate of development is unique for girls and the issues that affect girls differ in many ways from those that affect their male counterparts Dr Damour offers deep insight into the teen fema...This book provides a comprehensive overview of 7 states of development in adolescent girls I found the information to be valuable, and in each chapter, the author discusses what s normal and then ends with a When You Should Worry section Although filled with much practical advice, I felt that the author to some extent was inconsistent in regard to her parenting approaches Moreover, I felt that there was so much nuance in how to handle these matters that it appeared as if only a professional This book provides a comprehensive overview of 7 states of development in adolescent girls I found the in...I really enjoyed this book, which clearly explains what our girls need to do in their teens in order to become independent and competent adults Many of these things will aggravate, and this is as expected.As a parent to adolescent girls, I m always trying to walk the fine line between giving them room to test their boundaries, and not putting up with inappropriate behavior Untangled gives great guidance to this balancing act, including When to worry sections at the end of each chapter Sadl I really enjoyed this book, which clearly explains what our girls need to do in their teens in order to become independent and competent adults Many of these things will aggravate, and this is as expected.As a parent to adolescent girls, I m always trying...First, I must state that it is thanks to NetGalley that I received an ARC of this book in exchange for a fair and honest review I read the book, than gave it to my close friend who has a very difficult relationship with her daughter Also I thought the book might help me advise her through this rough patch I was not disappointed and I thought the author did a excellent job She shows the why of your teenager behavior and understanding how her mind works at this...Pray for me I m the father of a 12 year old daughter.This book is a helpful, though not groundbreaking, book meant to guide parents through the undeniable difficulties of raising girls into strong women at the beginning of the 21st century Damour s approach is generally progressive, feminist, and self reflective, realizing that a lot of the ways we socialize girls and teach them to be polite are also the ways we instill stereotypes All useful fodder for thought She brings in some brain scien Pray for me I m the father of a 12 year old daughter.This book is a helpful, though not groundbreaking, book meant to guide parents through the undeniable difficulties of raising girls into strong women at the beginning of the 21st century Damour s approach is generally progressive, feminist, and self reflective, realizing that a lot of the ways we socialize girls and teach them to be polite are also the ways we instill stereotypes All useful fodder for thought She brings in some brain science, and mostly dismisses the notion that hormones play much of a role in girls s behaviors, but the neurology is light which I think is good, since explanations on brain biology, in my opinion, usually far exceed the actual science.She identifies seven s...I absolutely loved this book and the approach to addressing teen issues through the 7 normal developmental strands of teen girls It was practical, with a ton of great examples, and positive throughout, and I walked away with a greater appreciation for my older girls and the challenges and opportunities they re facing in this stage The only section I didn t wholeheartedly agree with was the one around sexuality and the conversations we sh...

Untangled
  • 13 January 2018
  • Hardcover
  • 352 pages
  • 0553393057
  • Lisa Damour
  • Untangled